Redefining Strength: Men's Mental Health Month

When you think of the stereotypical male character in movies, books and TV shows, it’s likely that characteristics such as independence, competitiveness, assertiveness, bravery or physical strength come to mind. Picture James Bond, the infamous spy known for his confidence, charm, and ability to handle any situation with cool composure. Or Ron Swanson from "Parks and Recreation," the ‘man's man’ who values self-reliance above all else. Or Superman, a symbol of strength and heroism, always ready to swoop in and save the day.  

While these are important qualities, our society’s tendency to place value on only qualities like these has created a culture where many men feel the need to hide their emotions and their overall mental health experience. In June, we recognize Men’s Mental Health Month, a time dedicated to challenging this narrative and raising awareness about the mental health challenges faced by men that are often hidden in silence and shame. Let’s talk more about this topic and identify some ways we can all play an active role in breaking down the barriers that prevent men from seeking help. 

The Silent Struggle 

To understand the significance of advocating for men’s mental health, we must first become aware of the current picture. Here are some important statistics that illuminate the difficult reality of men’s mental health today (Chatmon, 2019): 

• Six million men are affected by depression in the United States each year 
• Men die by suicide at a rate four times higher than women  
• Men die due to alcohol-related causes at significantly higher rates than women 
• Men are two to three times more likely to misuse drugs than women   
• Approximately 3.5 million people in the US are diagnosed with schizophrenia, and 90% of those who are diagnosed by age 30 are men (Mental Health America)
• While nearly 1 in 10 men experience some form of anxiety or depression, less than half seek treatment 

A clear question that comes out of these statistics is this: with so many men experiencing mental health difficulties, what are the barriers preventing them from getting the help they need? 

The answer to this question is complex and multifaceted. First and foremost, societal norms, expectations and stereotypes have resulted in deeply engrained beliefs about how men ‘should’ think and behave. From a young age, boys are taught to embody traits like toughness, self-reliance, and emotional stoicism. Phrases like "man up" or "boys don't cry" reinforce the idea that expressing vulnerability is a sign of weakness. This belief is passed down through generations and as a result, many men internalize the belief that they must handle their problems on their own. This pattern creates a harmful barrier, where seeking help is seen not just as unnecessary but as a failure to meet these societal expectations. 

Ultimately, these norms have created a stigma around men’s mental health. Men often fear judgment from peers, colleagues, and even family members if they reveal their struggles. This fear of being perceived as weak or unstable can feel especially strong in professional environments where competitiveness and strength are valued. The combination of these societal pressures and stigmas can quickly create a devastating cycle where suffering in silence feels like the only option.

Breaking The Silence 

So, what can we do to break the cycle and the silence? The work of shifting narratives and dismantling stigmas does not happen overnight. This process takes time, but the cumulative effect of small acts on an individual level is where real change happens. Let’s talk about some ways we can advocate for men’s mental health: 

👉 It starts with open conversation & communication! Normalizing conversations around mental health in general opens space where it feels easier for men to express their feelings. Ask questions such as “How would you describe your mental health lately?” “Do you feel supported, or is there anything we can do to better support you?” “Is there anything that you have felt scared to talk about?”  

👉 Avoid stereotypical phrases such as “tough it out” or “suck it up.” Use language that encourages men to express their feelings and emotions: “It’s okay to ask for help,” “You are not alone in this,” “Everyone needs support sometimes.” 

👉 Parents, teachers & coaches – boys learn so much from watching you! Model positive behaviors such as expressing emotions, asking for help, and practicing self-care. 

👉 Create opportunities where young boys can engage in a variety of hobbies and interests, regardless of societal gender norms. Finding purpose and passion in different activities goes a long way in promoting self-confidence and self-expression – two big mental health protective factors! 

👉 Awareness of mental health statistics and resources specific to men automatically increases their chances of seeking support. Being informed is a necessary primary step in creating change – whether for yourself or a loved one. 

Into The Light 

This Men’s Mental Health Month, we challenge you to check in with the men in your life – because even one conversation can make all the difference in bringing light and hope into someone’s life. Let's break the silence together! 

To learn more about this topic, including conversation starters & resources specific to men’s mental health, download this free resource.